Dragqueen «Roxxy» gave me insight into her transformation for a photo series. Besides the pictures that were taken during the impressive transformation, I also had many enlightening moments. One thing is certain: biological women can learn a lot from her.
# 1 Prepare yourself meticulously
# 2 Dig deep into your toolbox
# 3 Be creative and playful
# 4 You can change anytime
During the performance as a drag queen, the artist creates a fictitious personality. This allows him to live out his life free from constraints and social expectations. He consciously decides who he wants to be on this evening and lives this out through his art form. But even for us non-Dragqueens, the decision about who we want to be lies with ourselves at all times. I can decide what makes up my person and if I want I can change this at any time.
# 5 Be fearless of public reaction
All views are on the two meter high beauty. Some curious, some judgmental, some admiring. Meanwhile she walks gracefully towards the night club and is not impressed by it. Even if she is aware of her effect, she knows: it is not her as a person who provokes these reactions. It is the confrontation between social norms and values that her appearance triggers in the viewers. This knowledge allows her to show herself to everyone. Calm and at peace with herself.
# 6 Give 0 fucks what people think
# 7 Surround yourself with your crew
At the LGBT party Roxxy meets her crew, who doesn’t judge her but celebrates her. Also choose your community so that it consists of people who encourage and help you. Positive people, members of your tribe and friends who confirm and support you. Through your allies, you will get the staying power you need for the things you want to achieve.
# 8 When in doubt, laugh
«Which toilet do I go to?» Drag queens handle the problem of gender-separated WCs in different ways. Roxxy, for example, might get upset that various members of society are discriminated against every time they have to go to the toilet. But instead she tells personal anecdotes and laughs about herself and this bizarre situation of our system. This doesn’t change the problem, but at least it makes it a little easier to live with.
# 9 You can always decide who you want to be
One thing I learned from Roxxy: Nobody can tell us how to be. We decide ourselves at any time how we give ourselves and which personality we embody. It feels liberating to become aware of this fact. To decide freely who we want to be is not a question of drag or non-drag. It is a question of my personal rights as an individual and human being.